My man doesn't want to bathe


October 14, 2015

Dear Pastor,

I hear you talking on your show about how a man should smell and look and take care of his hygiene. Well, I am living with a man and it is because I can't do better why I stay. I warned him that one day when he comes home he would find an empty house and I would be gone. This man is disgusting. He would come home, eat and come on the bed without bathing, wanting to touch me. I always pull away from him and tell him to go and bathe.

He has a style to tell me that it is because I have a man why I don't want to have sex with him. Any woman with this kind a man would keep another man. I can get a man, but I wouldn't do it until I leave him. I am here because he pays the rent, but every piece of the furniture is mine. He took out the stove, but I paid for it, so when I am leaving I am going to take it with me. He told me that he could get another woman, so I am going to move out. Someone promised to rent me a two bedroom place.

So, pastor, when women give these men 'bun' they say we are wicked, but this man should get more than bun. I am settling for him. Pastor, keep up the good work.


Dear H.W.,

No one should blame you if you leave this man. You shouldn't be telling him to take a shower. How could he expect you to tolerate him going to bed without taking a bath? Leave the dirty man. He has no shame.

It seems to me that you are putting your plans in place. Don't let anybody try to talk you out of your plans. There are times when a woman has to move on and the same is true of a man. I wish you well.


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