Women should play with themselves
I think it's nice for women to play with themselves in the presence of their men, and to invite their husbands to watch them and then join in.
Some couples do different things to spice up their relationship in the bedroom. And this is one method some couples use. They tease each other, and when they believe they can't resist each other, they go further. Some don't even do penetration. They bring each other to orgasm by playing around with each other genitalia. I speak to you as a counsellor. I am not here advocating or endorsing any method people use in spicing up their love life or their sex life. Frankly it's none of my business.