She wants to abort our baby


January 06, 2016

Dear Pastor,

I am 22. My girlfriend is 24. She has been working for the last two and a half years. I have been working for the last six months. She is nice to me, but she is pregnant and wants to terminate the pregnancy.

She said she didn't want to get pregnant, but she doesn't always want me to use the condom. We have had sex many times, but she doesn't enjoy it when I put on the condom.

My mother said she would raise the baby. Whenever she wants the child, she can get it. She doesn't want to carry the pregnancy at all. This would be my first child. I don't want her to kill it. She is a Christian. I told her I would let her pastor talk to her, but she said me if I did, she would do the abortion fast and the relationship would be finished. She has made up her mind. I don't know what to do.


Dear B.C.,

Your girlfriend is old enough to know the condom is one of the safest methods to prevent pregnancy and STIs. She was willing to have sex bareback and enjoy a few minutes of pleasure. Now that she has to face the consequences of her carelessness, she is not willing to carry the pregnancy.

I do not see how you are going to continue with this woman. You may love her. She may say it is her body and whatever she wants to do is her business. However, when a woman takes that position and a man doesn't have any input on what she does with the pregnancy, he should seriously consider ending the relationship. Move on. Leave this woman for good and don't look back.


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