I am living with the man who raped me


March 14, 2016

Dear Pastor,

At the age of 13 I was dating a rich guy. He lived in England but he took good care of me. He always wanted sex from me. I was tricked and raped at the age of 15. His dad bribed my mother and gave her money to keep the matter quiet, but later I found out that I was pregnant. I had the child.

Now I am 21 years old and I am living with him. I am unhappy because he bullies me, molests me and abuses me every day. I am in Jamaica now but will be returning to England soon. I am afraid to talk to anybody about what I am going through because he is a gang leader. Although he is wealthy, he has wrecked my life. Pastor, money is more important than sex when you are unemployed.


Dear Afraid,

Shame on your mother. She did not report the rape to the police, instead she took money from the father of the rapist and set the rapist free. That was a wrong thing to do. Then you found out that you were carrying the rapist's child, and as a result, you got tied up with him. Now you are living with him but you are a very unhappy. When you were 13 years old, you should not have been dating a man. What careless parent you have had. Your parents are to be blamed for what has happened to you. You say this man is the head of a gang and that he has lots of money. You have come to realise that money does not necessarily bring happiness. It is needed and if earned honestly, one can be very happy. But if one gets money through dishonest means, he or she might me tormented.

This gang leader might be giving you money and lots of it, but it will never bring you happiness. You have indicated that you would love to end the relationship but you are afraid. If you have your facts right, you may consider talking to someone in authority (police) concerning this man and what you know he might be involved in. If you are going to go this route you would need protection, so weigh the matter carefully before you act.


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