My 65-year-old husband has two other women


March 22, 2016

Dear Pastor,

Please accept greetings in the name of the Lord Jesus soon-coming king and Saviour. I am not a good reader, but I can help myself. This is the first time I am writing to you. I am asking for your advice. For the past 28 years, I have been living with a man. We have been married for the past 16 years. Since we have been married, he has been sleeping out and coming in late. Whenever I speak to him about his life, he says that the house is his and that he can come and go whenever he feels like. The big thing is that I spent a lot of money on this house.

This man does not give me money to take care of myself or to buy food. He eats outside of the house. He bought a car, so he is never at home. I am diabetic. If I am not feeling well, he does not stay with me, while I have nothing to eat. I am not working. The only money I get is my NIS pension money. My husband is 65. At his age, do you believe he should be behaving this way?

Sometimes I feel like moving out of this house. I asked him for the money I spent on the house. He said I have lived it out.

I was a Christian, but in this type of life, I fell. I want to pick up my broken pieces and move on with the Lord, but it is so hard. I am writing you with tears and my hand is shaking.

This man has two women friends. One is 52 and the other is 62. The 62-year-old travels twice a year and they are from the same community just three miles from where I am living.

Pastor, if I say anything about these women, he tells them and the women curse me. I am looking for your reply in THE STAR.


Dear P.S.,

Your husband is ignorant of the law. You are entitled to get what is legally yours as a married woman living with this man for many years. Even if you are forced to leave the house because of his threats, he would have to give you what is due to you according to the law. He is talking nonsense when he says that you have lived out what you spent on the house. Just don't make that bother you at all. You have as much right to that house as he does. His outside women do not have any right, but you do.

He is a wicked man, but God is not sleeping, and if he does not change his wicked ways, these women will eat him out, so to speak, and he will come back to you with his useless carcass. He thinks that he is punishing you now, but what I would encourage you to do is to pray and fast and ask God to have his way in this marriage. You have my prayers. Don't fight him over his women. It would not make sense.


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