My man is illiterate and controlling


April 01, 2016

Dear Pastor,

I am a regular reader of your column. I love and respect your honest and wise comments. May the Good Lord continue to bless you.

I am having problems. I would appreciate your opinion on this matter. I am 21 and living with my boyfriend. He is 22. He is a womaniser. He can't read, Pastor.

I told him to get books so I can teach him how to read, write and speak fluently. Neither of us work. He lives alone. He is a very jealous and insecure young man.

Whenever my phone rings, or I receive a text message, he accuses me of having an affair and is quick to fight me.

I want to go back to school and get my CXCs so I can move on to my future career, but money doesn't permit me. However, I am seeking a job so I can school myself. I am thinking of leaving my boyfriend even though I love him. I don't see any progress in this relationship or any form of motivation.

This is my first time writing to you. I kindly await your reply. Thank you.

Job Seeker

Dear Job Seeker

This young man should thank the Good Lord every day for you. Though he is illiterate, you have been having an intimate relationship with him. He is not ambitious. Because he has limited education, he is unable to reason. He is too out of order. Why does he feel he has the right to hit you?

What you should have done from the very first day he hit you was to end the relationship. You are not under any obligation to tell him who is calling you.

He should go to evening school and learn to read and write. He does not want you to teach him. Even if he attends school, he would need someone to help him with his schoolwork from time to time.

If anyone writes to offer you a job, I will contact you.


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