The girl I loved broke my heart

April 15, 2016

Dear Pastor,

I'm writing to you to tell you about a mistake I made months ago that messed up a few friendships for me.

I was with a girl who I really cared for. She took away all the bad experiences I had over the years with other girls who I had really cared about. Some might say I was too young to know what love is, but I know I have an understanding of what it entails.

I met this girl while in sixth form. She had bad experiences at her previous school with her ex-boyfriend who was 10 years older than her. She was 16 when they first met. He was 26.

I began talking to her and we got to be pretty close. She shared certain secrets with me about her life and her boyfriend. She told me she was upset with him and wanted to end the relationship. She eventually did so because I was there for her and she did not want to be alone.

We became friends and she knew I liked her. To cut a long story short, we got together and soon began having sex. I loved her like I loved no other and thought she was the one for me. That was a foolish mistake, as she soon told me that she liked another boy. I let her be with this new boy and, in less than a week, they started seeing each other.

By the next term at school, she came to me, saying she regretted leaving me. We resumed having sex. I didn't think of it as cheating because I loved her.

Eventually her boyfriend found out about us and our friendship ended. I was hurt and started trying to find a way to get rid of the pain. I became sexually involved with another girl, but it meant nothing to me.

In my confusion, I started talking to a girl who my best friend loved. She told me she had feelings for me and didn't like my friend because he was annoying. We eventually kissed and almost had sex at his house.

Although we didn't have sex, a few months after, I told him about the situation. He became upset, but eventually forgave me. I tried telling him she only wanted to use him, but he said he didn't care.

I went down a bad path because the girl I loved left me and I was hurt beyond words. The relationships I had are now ruined. I've accepted the reality and have learnt from my mistakes.

I now have a girl now who means the world to me and I'm taking a better path in life. I am one with God.

D.D.

Dear D.D.,

You have a long way to go. You are immature. You should have known you should not have tried to have sexual intercourse with your friend's girlfriend. Good men do not try to be intimate with their friends' women.

The girl you considered to be your girlfriend also had a boyfriend. I have to tell you that you do not have good morals.

You say you are now going with God. I hope you really have a change of attitude and way of life. The girls you were fooling around with were too easy. They, too, need to seek the help of the Lord and consider their future.

Pastor

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