Stressful relationship making me sick


April 15, 2016

Dear Pastor,

I am 23 and living with a 33-year-old man. At the time we met, I was coming out of an abusive relationship.

We have been together for two years. At the beginning of our relationship, he treated me like a queen. Now, it's as if I do not exist.

At first, he would call me regularly while I'm at work. He would also take lunch and fruits to me at my workplace. He was always there to take me home, even when it was not time for me to leave.

Nowadays, I have to be calling him as much as 15 times in one day before he answers. I suspect he is cheating because whenever a particular number calls his phone, at various hours of the day, he leaves the house and rushes off in his car.

Whenever I want to have sex, he is never in the mood. He no longer kisses, hugs or calls me loving names. Whenever I ask him for anything, I always have to argue with him before I can get it.

I believe his mind has changed from me because I told him I suffer from a hormone imbalance, which makes it difficult for me to get pregnant. I don't know what to do. I hope to hear from you.


Dear S.W.,

What this man did to you in the young stages of the relationship is not unusual. He wooed you by bringing lunch and fruits, and was always there to pick you up after work. Some folks would say that he was 'too nice'. The truth is you are now seeing who he really is.

He is very disrespectful. He knows you are unhappy yet continues to behave as if all is well.

I am afraid that, for your own health, you need to walk away from this relationship.


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