I registered my baby in his uncle's name


April 25, 2016

Dear Pastor,

I am 23 years old and I am having a problem. I have a child for a man who is 25. Both of us agreed that we couldn't register the child in his name because he might lose his job and his girlfriend. His brother agreed that I should register the child in his name, so it was an agreement that all of us had.

I never had sex with his brother, but these days he calls me up and tells me that one good deed deserves another. When he said that to me the first time, I asked him what he meant. He said that I knew what he meant. This man never stopped pestering me until I finally decided to give him a chance. I haven't done it as yet. It is only in my mind, but I said it to the child's biological father and he said I must be crazy.

The child's father cannot marry me because he has his girlfriend and everybody knows about the both of them. My child resembles him, but he can pass as his brother's child. His brother told me that I must remember he can expose me anytime, so if I want him to keep his mouth I would have to give him some sex. Nobody in my family knows that the name I have registered my child in is not his real father's. I feel that I did the wrong thing when I agreed to registered him in his brother's name. I don't know what to do.


Dear T.A.,

This is not the first time this matter of registering a child in a relatives name has been brought to my attention. You should have done what is right and let the chips fall where they may.

This is nothing but conspiracy, and already the uncle of the child is demanding sex from you to keep him quiet. Suppose you were to consent, would having sex with him once satisfy him or would you have to do it many times until he is satisfied that you have given him enough? And what will happen if, in the process, he got you pregnant? Do I hear somebody say you would be very careless to allow that to happen? The condom could break. Well, we better not go there.

The brother has no morals and he doesn't have any respect for his brother or for you. But let's face it, all three of you have behaved like crooks in trying to cover up who is the real father of the child. Stay far away from this man and may I suggest that you seriously consider changing the name of your child into the name of the biological father. He is going to strongly object to your doing so but it is better to do it now than to wait until your child has gotten older.

Remember one of these days you may truly meet a man that you love and what an embarrassment it would be for you to explain who is the father of your child.

I am very curious to know what type of job could the biological father of this child be doing that will cause him to lose his job if it was known that he has fathered a child.


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