I can never trust my woman again!

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April 26, 2016

Dear Pastor,

I am 53. My child's mother is 32. We have a 17-month-old son together. She is pregnant again. I am not sure if I am the father.

I am living in the United States of America. I told her I am going to request a DNA test. She is saying I am refusing to acknowledge that I am the father of her child.

Pastor, when we first met she told me she had two children. Her mother later told me she has three. I visit Jamaica three times every year. I am a US citizen. I love Jamaican women but can never spend enough time to find the right person.

I was planning to help her to come to the US with the other children because I have helped two other women before with seven children.

My family members told me to leave her but I am still stuck with her. Pastor, I love ram goat and she has never welcomed me home with a nice plate of curry goat. I always have to eat at my mother's house or go to a restaurant.

Every time I ask her to make me ackee and saltfish with fried dumpling she fails.

I love her but she cannot satisfy my heart. She knows how to lie. She could win an award for lying. Her other children's father warned me about her. She has told me many lies. I have to always be asking her mother things to get the truth.

I am single and was planning to marry her but am not sure of my happiness. Please advise me on what to do.

L.T.

Dear L.T.,

You are allowing this woman to make a fool of you. What both of you have been experiencing is not love. She sees you as a fool so she is treating you as a fool.

She is not doing anything to make you feel wanted and that she appreciates you.

I thank you for your letter but must tell you the truth. You didn't need to write to me to ask for my opinion.

You should leave this woman forthwith. You have had unprotected sex with her. She is claiming you have impregnated her. You ought to have been wiser. You didn't use much wisdom. You knew this woman cannot be trusted. If you were determined to have sex with her, you should have used the condom.

The father of her other children had warned you about her. Your mother told you to end the relationship with but silly you continued to allow yourself to be fooled by this woman.

You suggested a DNA test but she does not seem to want to do so. I would not be surprised that if when the baby arrives, you show up and claim paternity. This woman has had you as a puppet on a string.

Generally speaking, men who play around with many women end up with the worst one.

You ought to know what you want out of life. If this woman is not the type you can settle down with, you need to tell her so and move on.

You might blame her for many things but you ought to blame yourself, too, for not making good decisions.

Pastor

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