I want to have a relationship with my dad


April 28, 2016

Dear Pastor,

I am 18 years old and I am living with my mother, stepfather, brother and sister. I am attending pre-college. I am the oldest for both my parents. My mother had me at 15 and I know that is why she is protective of me but I think she is too protective. Because of that, I am clueless of what Jamaica has to offer and I do not have a relationship with my father.

I do not have the last name of my biological father because when I was a child she gave me to the wrong man. My real father wanted to do a DNA test but my mother never did it. Now I have to live with the fact that he wants nothing to do with me. We used to communicate but he suddenly stopped. I called his phone a couple days after my birthday this month and the phone went straight to voicemail. He never called back. Pastor, I really want to have a relationship with my father, and a good one too. Please give me your advice.


Dear T.S.,

The good thing about what you have said is that you are aware why your mother is overprotective of you. She does not want you to make a similar mistake. However, at 18 you know how to protect yourself.

Tell her that you are determined to make her proud and that you will never do anything to disgrace yourself and to make her feel ashamed.

Concerning your father, you have tried to have a good relationship with him. I would say you should continue to try to reach out to him. Don't give up. Whenever it is his birthday call him. Someone knows where he is. Ask around. God bless you. Do well in school.


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