He cheated, got her pregnant


May 04, 2016

Dear Pastor,

I am a regular reader of your column and listener of your talk show. I want to congratulate you on the wonderful job you are doing.

I am 21 years old and have been in a relationship with a 30-year-old man for the past three years. I recently found out that he got another woman pregnant. Both of us have been trying to have a baby for the last year, but were unsuccessful. Having to find out that he got another woman pregnant breaks my heart. He kept it a secret from me. No one in his family knew about him getting this other woman pregnant. I was the one who found out about it and told his sister. This man hid this secret the entire time without telling anyone.

I don't know how to go about dealing with this situation. Should I leave him? I need your advice.


Dear Broken,

You did not say whether this man has admitted that he impregnated another woman. If he did and did not tell you, it was probably because he did not want you to leave or he was afraid of how you would react. Whether you go or stay is a decision you alone should make.

Perhaps both of you should make an appointment and sit with a family counsellor and discuss this matter.


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