Should Christians watch X-rated films?
I am a 59-year-old man and I have been reading your column for a long time. I was surprised to hear you on the radio doing such great work.
My wife is not Jamaican, but she listens to your show and she reads the paper; the both of us think that you are doing a good job.
We have a house in Florida, so sometimes we are there, but when we hear you on the radio it is as if we are at home in Jamaica.
My wife is 45 years old. Sometimes I tell her that my only mistake in marrying her is that she is too hot.
I try my best to do what she wants me to do in bed. Sometimes I succeed and sometimes I don't. She is never satisfied with one round. She complains a little.
Sometimes she helps herself right there before me on the bed. I used to feel guilty, but I don't anymore. My doctor says that I should be happy that a man my age can go up to such a young girl.
The thought has crossed my mind whether she would cheat, so I asked her and she said no way. Sometimes we watch adult sex films, just for entertainment. What do you have to say about that?
We are both Christians. Some of our friends tell us that we shouldn't be looking at that type of films. We see nothing wrong with it. You are an inspiration to the world. Keep up your good work.
Thank you for reading my column and listening to the 'Dear Pastor' show.
Your wife and yourself have something special. You love each other and you enjoy each other.
You are not many years older than your wife. Both of you enjoy making love and from what you have written, you have done marvelously well.
You are not to force yourself to do more than what you are doing. Congratulations, because some men cannot stand at attention at your age; I am sure you know what I mean. So you don't have anything to worry about.
Whenever your wife wants to go on a very long journey, she knows what to do. You shouldn't question whether she would cheat or leave you.
I am not here to condemn you, but I do believe that although your wife and yourself look at blue movies for entertainment, your wife would probably want you to do some of what she sees in these movies and you can't go up to it.
Therefore, I will make this suggestion to you. Instead of watching these adult films, buy yourself some indoor games such as Scrabble, Monopoly, checkers, chess, etc, and have fun together playing these games.
That would take your mind off sex, sometimes. Again, if you can do a good one, you are doing fine.