My husband doesn't want to give me another child

September 30, 2016

Dear Pastor,

I am 23 years old. A year ago, I had my first child. My husband has his own business, and I assist him. He allowed me to stay home for three months, but he gave me my weekly salary just the same.

Two months after I had my baby, one of my close friends asked me if my husband and I had resumed having sex. I told her it was too soon for us to do so and that my husband had not even suggested it.

She said that I was lucky because after seven weeks, her husband was ready to have sex again, and it was hard for her because she was not in the mood. I didn't say anything to my husband. But after four months, my husband asked me if I was ready to have sex. I told him to give me another month.

He never touched me until six full months, and Pastor, I was ready. My husband came at me stronger than before. I enjoyed making love with him. It was like having a honeymoon night. The only difference is that I had milk in my breasts.

The problem I am having now is that I would like to have another child, but my husband, who is 40 years old, does not want any more children because he was married and he had three children and was divorced before we got married. He wants me to be satisfied with just one child, but I need another. Do you have any suggestions that you could give us?


Dear Y.H.,

Evidently, your husband and you did not discuss the number of children you would like to have after getting married. I suggest, however, that after your child is about two years old that you raise this matter with your husband again.

Perhaps it is too soon for him to adjust to your getting pregnant again. You have a wonderful husband, a very patient husband with tremendous self-control. Don't do anything to make him feel that you are pressuring him.


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