He told his wife my son is not his
I am 31 years old and I am living with a married man. We have one child together. He is 40 years old. I got myself mixed up with this man because I needed help. I used to go to his office to see him when I was in need and we got involved.
When I told him that I was pregnant, he told me it was not true because he and his wife are married and they don't have children. I told him that if he doesn't want the child, I will throw the belly away and he discouraged me from doing so.
He told me not to tell anybody who I was pregnant for. I gave him my word. The child is the dead stamp of this man.
His wife has found out about the child. She asked him about it and he told her that the child is not his. She asked me and I told her that if he says the child is not his, then she should believe him.
I stopped going to his office, but he sends money to me through a bearer every weekend. My child cannot grow up without knowing his father. I told the man that he should have admitted it to his wife that he got me pregnant. He said he will do so in due time.
My son will have to go to school very soon, and I would like to enrol him in his real name. What is your advice, Pastor?
This man should have told his wife the truth. He denied that he is the biological father and when she asked you about it, you were not straightforward either.
You are fortunate that he is supporting the child. You should make sure that you register him in school in his father's surname. That would avoid lots of complication in years to come.
Do not make any trouble with his wife. He is supporting the child. Accept that and let him deal with the paternity problem with his wife.