Boyfriend using me for sex and phonecards

March 21, 2017

Dear Pastor,

There is this guy who is 20 years old. I am 16. We had sex three times, and I gave him oral sex multiple times. He always makes me smile just by texting me. Sometimes he'll ask me for credit, and if I don't give him, he gets upset with me.

Every time I tell him that I love him, he never tells me in return that he love me. Sometimes I feel that he only wants me for sex and credit.

There is a lot going on in my life since someone related to me has died. Every day my boyfriend would ask me if I am OK, and he tells me that I should stop crying.

I don't know if he cares or he just wants sex, or both. I love him, but I don't know if he loves me.

What should I do?


Dear T.U.,

My suggestion to you is that you stop allowing this man to use you. You are looking for affection. Perhaps you have not been fortunate to experience love in your home by your parents. So, this man came into your life and you got very excited believing that he cares for you, so you gave him your body and your heart, and he has taken advantage of you. He constantly wants you to give him sex and credit. Yes, he gives the impression that that's what he wants from you. You want his attention and affection because you believe that you are in love with him.

I know you have made a serious mistake by allowing him to have his way with you. What you should have been doing instead was to concentrate on getting a good education. He doesn't care about your future. He does not even have pride. Any man who constantly begs his girlfriend for credit and is angry when she says no is a user.

By now, you should know what I am about to tell you, and I hope that you will accept my suggestion. End this one-sided relationship now. Drop this man. If you don't, you are going to continue to feel depressed. In fact, it should not have started in the first place.


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