Boyfriend doesn't believe my sex history

March 28, 2017

Dear Pastor,

I am having a problem in my relationship at the moment and I am confused about what to do. I've been with my boyfriend for two years now. He's 39 years old and I'm 21. In the beginning, I had told him that I had sex with only one man before him, which wasn't a lie.

The problem is that we were talking about cheating and I told him that when I was with my ex-boyfriend, because of the way how he treated me, I ended up talking to another man, but we didn't have sex.

Pastor, it's now causing big arguments and he's now telling me he doesn't trust me because I can't stay with one man, and that I had sex with a lot more than the two men. He said this is so because no Jamaican man is going to talk with a woman for four months without having sex with her.

Pastor, I just would love to prove to this man that I didn't tell a lie, and that I never cheated on him. Please give me your godly advice.

Initial Withheld

Dear Initial Withheld,

You'll never be able to convince this man that you were speaking the truth and you must not stress yourself over what he believes about you. He said that he doesn't believe what you said about not having sex with more than one man.

Leave him alone.

Whenever he raises the matter, tell him that you are tired of his nonsense and he can believe whatever he wants to believe. But if he does not stop harassing you, you may have to move on because only a foolish man would constantly accuse his woman of having sex because she had a casual relationship with another man.

Unfortunately, this man is not an intelligent man. An intelligent man would not harass his woman over this matter.


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