Wife dislikes my outside children

July 10, 2017

Dear Pastor,

I greet you in Jesus' name. I am a regular listener to your show and I read your column every day. I have three children with my wife and four outside. I have given my wife everything, and whenever I give the other children money, she makes a big fuss. She doesn't want the children to come to the house at all. They have to come to my workplace.

Last Christmas, I wanted to have a family dinner. We decided to do it at one of my sister's house because she has a big yard. My wife told me that if my outside children were going to be there, then she is not going to come or send her children.

One of the children's mother and I are good friends and my wife believes that we still have something going, and that is not true. The woman called my house and begged me money to fill a prescription and I told her to send the prescription to me and I will take care of it. My wife heard me talking to her and she claimed I am still having a relationship with this woman.

She wants everything for herself. When I spoke to her about it, she said she is the wife. I love all my children and I can't put these that I have with her above those that I have outside.

Tell me if I am wrong.


Dear F.P.,

Try to treat all your children well. They are your children. I am afraid that your wife is too selfish. She should be glad to know that you have a good relationship with all the kids and their mothers, too.

You did not say whether this family reunion was held. It is necessary from time to time for relatives to get together, and all your children should be there with you. Your wife is too childish. Don't allow her to cause you to neglect your children.

All your children should attend family functions, if possible.


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