My husband wants to put his thiefing son in my house
This is the first time I am writing to you. I have never thought that I would write to you. I noticed a lot of people commend you for the work that you are doing and I have to agree. I have been married for 20 years. I am 45 years old and my husband is 47. I knew him five years before we got married.
While we were getting to know each other, he got another girl pregnant but he didn't tell me. When the baby was born, I heard that it was his child. I asked him and he admitted it. The mother was having relationships with different men, so at one stage, he wasn't even sure the child was his, but he still supported him.
I told him that if he hadn't gone there, the woman couldn't call his name. The boy was always getting into trouble. A few years ago, he said he was changed. My husband helped him to buy a car. He wasn't changed at all. He came to our house when we were away and stole my jewellery and money. We knew that he stole them so we couldn't call the police because we did not want to put him in prison.
My husband gave him some money to do an investment and he used up every cent of it. Now he wants to come and live with us because he is about to be thrown out of the house he is living in. My husband is suggesting that we can put him up for a while until he gets back on his feet.
I am not in favour of it and my husband is upset because I said no way. We do not have children together but my husband has this boy and two girls with other women. I have a visa and if this guy comes here to live, I am going to leave my husband. My husband said he will never allow me to leave but I mean every word I say. I have obeyed my husband all along but I don't want his son to be living in the same house with me. No way.
Your husband wants his son to come and live with you until he gets back on his feet. What feet is he talking about? According to what you have said, he is a thief and he doesn't have any to stand on. You should insist that he stays where he is. You should not allow this young man to sleep even one night at your house. He has made his bed hard, he should lie on it.
You have not said whether this young man is working. If he is not working, his father should help him to get a job. This young man is spoiled. He has been on his own and he should stay on his own. He will disrupt your house. You husband should see that.
If you were to take this man into your house, he will eat and drink freely. You may have to wash his clothes, etc. Stand firm, do not allow this man to come into your house regardless of what your husband says.