I don't trust my man

August 14, 2017

Dear Pastor,

It's my first time writing to you. I am 27 years old and my boyfriend is 44. We have been together for two years now.

We're not living in the same parish and I am having a hard time trusting him. He had lied to me before about his ex and I forgave him but will never forget it.

He wants us to live together, but I am working in another parish.

When we started dating he told me that he does not have any children. However, nine months ago, he told me that there is a little girl that people in the community are saying is his.

The child is registered in his name. According to him, he did not know the child was his until people started coming to him about it and that's when he told me.

He said he's going to carry out his responsibility as a father and I support the fact that he wants to do that. I was very upset when I heard about the situation, but I decided to forgive him.

It's been months now since I have been asking him to let me see this child and he refuses to do so. He always find an excuse as to why I can't see the child. He even said I'm rushing it.

Pastor, I need your advice.


Dear K.M.,

I don't know why this man is lying. If both of you are lovers, but he has a child with another woman and is supporting his child, he shouldn't be afraid to let you know the child.

Perhaps there are other things that are preventing him from doing so. You suspect that this man is hiding something from you.

I suggest that both of you make an appointment to see a family counsellor.

Both of you are not living in the same parish and perhaps that is causing some problems, but always remember that when people love each other, they make time for each other.


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