In love with a married man

August 14, 2017

Dear Pastor,

I am 17 years old. I am writing to you because I need your advice. I am dating this married man, he is 27 years old. His wife and he aren't getting along well.

Before getting into a relationship with him, I told him that he should stick to his wife. But, I don't know what has got over me.

I still date him because I love him so much. He is a very nice person and all that. He explained briefly everything about his wife and himself.

He also told me that he was young and naÔve at the time he got married to her. He hasn't spoken to her as a wife and husband should. She lives in the United States.

I haven't had sex with him as yet because I don't want to get myself into trouble, as he is still married. I really like him.

What if he gets a divorce from his wife for some reason and wants to marry me? Is it a problem to get married at the age of 18?

Would you encourage me to get married him at that age if it comes to that?

Please, I need advice.


Dear T.T.,

I would not encourage you to marry this man at all. You are too naÔve. I don't believe that this man is telling you the truth.

Many married men, when they want to have intimate relationships with other women, lie about their wives.

One of the first things they say is that their wives and themselves are not getting along, and sometimes that's a lie.

They say that because they want the women to believe that there is a wonderful chance to get a man.

Many times after they have had relationships with these women and they want to get rid of them, they return with another story, such as they and their wives are trying to make up and to resolve their problems. So they can't continue to have affairs.

On the other hand, there are some men who just speak the truth. They let the girls know that they are married and may not be able to see them very often.

This man you have written to me about is trying to fill your head with foolishness. He wants to get under your skirt, so he is lying on his wife.

You would be wise to keep away from this man. This is not a healthy relationship.


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