My girlfriend is too insecure

August 14, 2017

Dear Pastor,

I'm a Jamaican, but I am living in the United States. I am 19 years old. I would love for you to give me some advice about a situation. I have been dating a young woman for two years now. We got engaged last December.

During the two years, I helped this young woman a lot, such as her need for food. Every time I send this woman money, I have to remind her to at least say 'thank you'.

To be honest, I am really the only one she has. Her family and friends turn a blind eye on her. I travel a lot to spend time with this young woman, but every time I arrive on the island, I spend a lot of money and I never enjoy my time.




We are always fighting over some stupid things like my ex and other women, because she feels insecure about herself. I try to get her life on track, but every day she tries to build an argument.

She says that she can't do better. This is a girl I liked, but I really don't know how she will work things out in the long run.

At this point, marriage doesn't seem to be an option. What should I do?

The relationship is so bad, she wants to pick my friends and tell me what to do, but I can't do the same with her. I would love to get your feedback on this.


Dear M.M.,

You should keep this young woman as a good friend. Stop giving her the impression that you are so loaded with cash that she can get money at any time and that she does not have to show any form of gratitude.

You say that she is insecure; I say she is immature. You didn't give her age, but it is time for you to tell her that you are fed up of the arguments and that you will keep her only as a good friend until she is willing to change.

Don't waste your time travelling to Jamaica to see her. You are blowing your money.


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