My boyfriend doesn't give me any money

August 23, 2017
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Dear Pastor,

I am so confused that I need help in solving this situation. I would appreciate it if you can reply as soon as possible.

I am in love with this man for two years now. We both decided to go back to church and become committed to God.

We live together. I would say he treats me well, apart from that fact that if I don't ask him for money, I don't get it. Is that a red flag?

Now that we are both going to church, we have stopped having sex and we are not planning to resume until we are married. Whenever we are to talk about marriage, he avoids the topic or dances around it.

I am confused, Pastor. I don't want to force him to do anything. How do I know if he really loves and wants to marry me?

I don't want to lose him, but I don't want to wait forever for him either. What do you think I should do? I really need your advice.

K.P.

 

Dear K.P.,

This man and you plan to get married and both of you have professed Christianity and he gave you the impression that he is very serious about his commitment to Christ, and you stopped having sex and you pledged that you won't resume until you are married.

But, evidently, this man is having second thoughts. He is not discussing the matter with you and the date has not been set. You are frustrated. You can suggest to him that both of you should go to see the pastor of your church and discuss the matter.

He needs to also understand that he ought to give you money to take care of yourself if you are not working. He should not wait for you to ask for money.

Both of you should make a budget. If he is reluctant in doing so, you should do it and show it to him.

This man treats you well so try to work with him. He needs a little push, so I repeat, both of you should go to the pastor of the church you are attending for guidance.

Pastor

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