Me and my boyfriend keep breaking up
I am 17 years old and I am in need of your help. I am currently in a relationship that I can't seem to get out of. We have been together for three months.
I know this is a short relationship and should be easy to get out of, but every time we break up we always get back together. Since we have been together, we broke up three times. He is not faithful.
The last time we broke up, it was difficult to forgive him. I don't trust him anymore. I know I am too young for this kind of drama, and I should be focusing on my dreams.
I have recently passed eight CXC subjects with grades 1 and 2. I won't allow him to stop me from chasing my dreams, but I don't want to let him go, either.
I would love if you could reply as soon as possible. Your advice is urgently needed. Thank you.
Dear Confused Teen,
You are only 17 years old and having a relationship with a young man for three months. You say this guy has not been faithful.
You didn't give his age, but if you are in and out of this relationship and it is only three months old, the message the guy is sending to you is that he is not serious about you.
And, frankly, that is not a bad message right now, at your age. It's not advisable for a 17-year-old girl to be going steady with a man.
It would be better if you had many social male friends and go out with them from time to time in groups, but not to have any man in your life who would think that he is your steady boyfriend.
This guy wants to be free to date other girls, but you are hanging on to him and telling him that he ought not to do so because you are his woman.
You are having emotional problems now because you accept the relationship as permanent and he does not, even if he tells you that he does.
You have done very well on your exams; continue to work hard on your goals. Give yourself time to mature. Don't take on 'man problem'. You are too young for that.