My husband knows everybody's business

November 16, 2017
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Dear Pastor,

I have been reading your column since a co-worker drew my attention to it. I am not a Jamaican, but I am married to a Jamaican, and we have three children. I am a Christian, but my husband is not. He likes to read your column, too.

My children and I go to church every Sunday. My husband goes on special Sundays like Easter, Christmas, and New Year's Sunday, and if the children are doing anything special in church, he would attend to give them his support. He is very supportive. When we are in church, he is cooking dinner. He is a better cook than I am. His mother had five children, all boys, and she taught them to do everything for themselves. My husband can iron better than any woman.

I asked my husband if he would attend church every Sunday for three months, and he said he would consider doing so, but it would be difficult because there are too many hypocrites in the church. My husband knows everybody's business in the church. I am amazed. He knows about the Sunday school teachers, the deacons, choir members and even the minister. He calls everybody hypocrite.

It was funny how he knows all of these things. I was amazed. I kept silent, and then he said, "You see why I can't go to church as often as you? Too many hypocrites are in the church."

I didn't know how to answer my husband, so that is why I am writing to you. I couldn't tell my husband that the hypocrites are not there. He knows them. Please, I am asking for an answer.


Dear S.P.,

First, let me say that you have a very helpful husband, and he loves his family. He is a good Jamaican man. I am sure the children love him.

Yes, indeed, there are many hypocrites in the church. It has always been like that. The church is not perfect. Jesus Christ started the church with 12 disciples, and one Judas Iscariot was numbered among them, and he was a big hypocrite. Simon Peter was also a hypocrite, and God used him to preach one of the greatest sermons on the Day of Pentecost, and many were converted.

I repeat, the church is not perfect, and if your husband would like to find a perfect church, he will not find any. Hypocrites are everywhere. They are at your office, and you have to work with them every day. They are at the bank, and you have to deal with them. The tellers may not like you, but when they see you, they force a smile, but would rather not deal with you.

Your husband is probably like the Pharisee who saw himself as a perfect person. He was in church, and a publican was also there. He looked at the publican who was seeking God's mercy and forgiveness, and considered himself a better person than the publican. The Pharisee ridiculed the publican in his prayer although both were in the house of God. But God had mercy on the publican.




Every sinner has to seek mercy. Your husband has to learn not to be judgemental. Everyone, whether he is a member of the church or outside the church, must give an account to God for himself. Your husband is a self-righteous man, but I believe he means well. The Bible says that one has to take care of his own soul and learn not to judge others. It is time for your husband to seek the Lord, and stop making excuses for not attending church.

The Bible says in John chapter 8 that early one morning Jesus was on the Mount of Olives. Jesus went into the temple and many people went to Him, and He taught them, and the scribes and Pharisees brought a woman to him. They caught her committing adultery and they wanted Jesus to judge this woman, and Jesus said unto them, "He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her." No one was able to do so. They left one by one. Then Jesus said to the woman, "Woman, where are those thine accusers? Hath no man condemned thee?" and she said, "No man, Lord", and Jesus said unto to her "Neither do I condemn thee, go and sin no more."

Jesus gave a warning to all who are willing to judge others; they should judge themselves first. Whether your husband knows it or not, he, too, can be described as a hypocrite because he is not an earnest seeker of truth. He is a sinner and needs to be saved by the grace of God.


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