I like to be sexually tortured
I am a 25-year-old girl who is having problems. I don't get any pleasure from my husband because I like to be sexually tortured and he is more soft and gentle.
He buys me fancy stuff instead of whipping me as I requested on my birthday. He is such a selfish man because he doesn’t beat me to show me that he loves me.
Pastor, I am terribly troubled. I am wondering if he is seeing someone else. Please, give me your fatherly advice. Should I leave? Or should I stay?
Dear K. R.,
I think what you are trying to say is that you like bondage sex, but your husband is not compliant. You want to be tied up, blindfolded and whipped.
Some couples take turns in doing it to each other. Some tie themselves up with silken cloth and beat each other with leather belt. Some use sexual toys on each other while they are tied up.
Your husband is not in these types of sex games, but that does not mean that he is cheating. You consider him selfish because he does not beat you to show you how much he loves you. Do you really believe that a man has to tie up his woman and beat her to prove that he loves her? You do not want anything smooth, you want a rough man. Your man and you have to compromise with each other. You have to meet him half way and he has to meet you half way.
I am reluctant in making this suggestion but I will. Perhaps you should tie him up and make him feel helpless and vulnerable. If you spank him and he likes it, he may want to reciprocate. To get your husband to do what you like him to do, you ought to beg him but not to demand him to do things your way. One can have lots of fun begging.