My man had an erection while kissing my best friend

February 01, 2018

Dear Pastor,

I am 19 years old, and I am having a problem with my boyfriend. He is 30 years old. He wants me to be his woman, but at the same time he wants to have a relationship with my best friend. My best friend and I were spending a weekend at his house. She is 20 years old, she has her boyfriend and I caught her kissing my boyfriend. I asked what was that, and she said that it was not a real kiss, they were only acting. She is in drama. I asked her why she did not put on that act in front of me so that I wouldn’t have to catch them doing it.

I went outside just to hang out some clothes, and by the time I came in, that was what I saw them doing. It is so hard to trust friends nowadays. If they were just acting, then why did he have an erection?

I have been friend with this girl for a long time. She used to help me when I was in high school and I didn’t have lunch money. I didn’t expect her to be kissing my boyfriend. When I told my boyfriend that I am going to leave him, he got down on his knees and begged me not to leave him because it was only a kiss.

My girlfriend and I are still friends, but wicked thoughts have come to my mind. I said to myself, 'if I had the opportunity I would go to her boyfriend and offer him a kiss or even sex', but I wouldn’t want my boyfriend to know that. But I would feel better in myself.

I love her very much, but I wouldn’t trust her around my boyfriend anymore.


Dear A.C,

I don’t believe that your boyfriend and this young girl were kissing because they were practising drama. Why didn’t they do so in your presence? Your boyfriend was interested in her and so he took the opportunity to kiss her and to express to her how he feels about her. It was not a role play. If they had the opportunity to have sex they would have done so. Both of them are lying.

You have asked a good question. Why it is that he had an erection while kissing her? This girl must have been real hot. You should not take her back with you to visit him. However, bear in mind that if they are interested in each other they can find ways to meet each other.

One thing I know for sure is that you should not lower your standard by trying to hit back at her in taking revenge by kissing or offering sex to her boyfriend. You will regret doing so.

Your boyfriend went on his knees and asked you to forgive him. I wouldn’t be surprised if some tears were shed. Let us hope that he would never make that mistake again. You shouldn’t be worried about whether your boyfriend will become intimate with your best friend or any girl. At the same time, you shouldn’t be careless.



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