I had a one-night stand to pay my school fee

February 05, 2018

Dear Pastor,

I met you some years ago when you came to Mandeville to do an outside broadcast. I was a student at the time. Now, I am married, and I have two children. I am an avid reader of your column.

I grew up without a father, so I was always looking for a big man to be my husband. That is why I have married a man who is almost twice my age. He is a good provider, but he doesn't want me to have many friends. Apart from this man, I have had sex with only two other guys. The guy who took my virginity went away and did not continue the relationship with me. The other guy I had sex with was my husband's age.

I had to do my exams and I did not have the money. I asked him for it and he did not say that we had to have sex, but he told me where to meet him. I knew what that meant. When he saw me, he smiled and said, "You really come for true?" I said, "Yes, that is what you told me to do." He said, "Don't you know that I am a married man?" I told him I did not know that he was married, but I was here already.

We went to a certain place in Mandeville and got some chicken. He asked me how long I can stay, and I told him I could stay as long as he wanted me. He turned his face to the wall, took his kerchief from his pocket, wiped his eyes and then turned around, hugged me, and talked nice things in my ear. He asked me if I will see him again after that night and I told him if he wanted to.




We had sex twice that night. While he was sleeping, I went into his pocket and saw that he had more than $100,000. When it was about to dawn, I showered and he showered, and he asked me how much I needed, I told him to give me what he can afford. He gave me $50,000, and he kissed me and told me that I should only call his number if I needed him.

He did not know that I saw the amount of money he had in his pocket. I never called his number until I was ready to graduate I invited him to my graduation. He came and shook my mother's hand. My mother did not know that I was not a 'saint'. This man and I could have remained intimate, but I promised that I would not destroy his relationship with his wife.

My husband cannot walk in this man's shoes, but I have never cheated on him. What I have written in this letter, he does not know. Men don't need to be jealous if women decide to keep their integrity. Sometimes I am not satisfied with my husband, but I stay with him because I have to set good examples for my two children.

When are you coming back to Mandeville, Pastor? I would love to see you again.


Dear P.L.,

I am so glad to hear from you. I have been to Mandeville about twice to have outside broadcasts. I am glad you met me there, but I must admit that I wouldn't remember you because there were many people there.

I am also glad that you graduated and now you are doing well. I am sure you are a beautiful woman. You have explained your story to me very well. It is unfortunate that some girls have done things, to pay bills, that they would not ordinarily do if they did not have needs. You know what you were going through. I am not prepared to condemn you. I hope your children wouldn't have to do what you did to pay your tuition.

Remain faithful to your husband. Take care of yourself and write to me again. I wish you the very best.


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