In love with a married man

February 21, 2018

Dear Pastor,

I am a 23-year-old woman and I met a guy a year ago. When I met him, I saw him as a nice guy. He was very nice to me. I never thought I would have met someone so nice and sweet.

One day he called me and told me that he had something to tell me. He told me that he hoped that I would not get upset. He revealed to me that he was married and that he has children, but he wanted us to be lovers and we should go out together.

I was very shocked because when we first got to know each other, he didn't tell me that he was married. He kept calling me but I did not return his calls. I could not believe that this man had fooled me.

I have continued the relationship with him because I have fallen in love with him. He is the best man I have ever known. To this day we are together.

I didn't think I would find someone else like him. I am still going out with him but my family doesn't know that we are still together. I love him so much and I don't want to lose him.

Pastor, please tell me what to do.


Dear Tricked,

This man did not tell you the truth when he first met you, but eventually he did. What he did was wrong, but having heard the truth from him, you should not have continued to have an intimate relationship with him. You want me to tell you what to do, so I will tell you now.

End the relationship with him, otherwise you are going to be very unhappy. You cannot say that you do not know that he is already taken.

So, do what is right. Don't be intimate with him at all. You are likely to find another 'nice' guy. It is only a matter of time.


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