Male friend raped me at gunpoint

March 01, 2018

Dear Pastor,

I am a regular reader of your column, and I listen to your show. May God continue to bless you. I feel stressed, and I don't have anyone to talk to. Friends have betrayed me. The only friend who has stuck with me is Jesus, and I know he will always be there for me. Since I was very young, I have been abused by older men. I had my first child when I was 14 years old, and the father doesn't support her. He behaves as if I was lying, but God sent someone to help me. My aunt turned the man's mind against me just because of what I was getting from him.

I started to work at a bar, and there, I met different guys. I went out with some of them just because I wanted money to support my daughter. Most of the time, I am so angry at men because of what I faced when I was young. Sometimes, I have thoughts of killing men.

A male friend of mine held me at gunpoint, raped me, and beat me. I cry day and night. I didn't want to tell you, but it is paining my heart. It makes me feel like I am worthless and careless. But, even if it takes 20 years, I have to kill him. I am asking parents to listen to their children.

Rape Victim


Dear Rape Victim,

I want to assure you that it is not because you were worthless or careless why you were raped. That is how many rape victims feel about themselves. According to what you have written, it is not only the man who held the gun and raped you who abused you. These things started when you were very young. You said that you had your first child when you were 14 years old, and you had to start working when you were very young to support your child. So you have had a hard life.

I pray that almighty God will remove from your heart the desire to kill that man who raped you. And I call on all Christian readers of my column to remember you in their prayers. I don't know if you have become a Christian, but I know that if you put your life in God's hand, you will find life easier.

I want to encourage you to go to church, read your Bible, and pray. I don't know how many children you have, but if the fathers of these children are not supporting them, you need to take them to family court. You should not be afraid of doing so. Remember, don't take the law into your hands. That man who raped you should have faced the court. All rape should be reported. Please, let me hear from you again. God bless you.


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