Children think new wife would kill me

May 21, 2018

Dear Pastor,

I listen to you every night. I don't go to bed unless I hear you. I am 70 years old and I am retired. I don't do much these days except read, listen to the radio, and go to church.

I lost my wife eight years ago. My children are very close to me. I see them often, practically every day. They pay to get my clothes washed and ironed and also to keep the house clean.

I know I can talk to you, pastor, because you are a grown man. I find my thoughts straying sometimes. Some of the sisters at the church are widows. Some invite me out.

They drive their own cars. One of them has a big job. She told me that she likes me and I lied to her and told her that I didn't like her.

She told me that she would get me to like her. Sometimes her son picks her up and takes her to his place, and when she comes home, she calls me and tells me she brought supper for me from her son.

My children warn me about this woman. They called her a killer because she was married twice and both of her husbands died. So they are saying if we were to get married, they would have to start making preparations for my funeral.

This woman is nice. I wasn't feeling so well one weekend, and after my son and his wife came and left, this woman told me she was coming over.

When she came, she sponged me down, rubbed me down because I was having a fever, and lay on the bed with me. I fell asleep.

I did not even know what time she left. All I knew is by morning, I was well again.

I told my children that I would love to marry this woman and they need not worry. I know they don't like it, but I need a woman in my life to take care of me. I want to hear how you feel about it. I would appreciate it.

G.S.

Dear G.S.,

If you feel that you are in love with this woman, follow your heart. This woman has had two different husbands and they have passed.

It is unfortunate that your children called her a killer, but that is what people generally say about women who were married more than once and their husbands have died.

It is really a joke, so you know you shouldn't take your children seriously. They are only joking with you.

I doubt that your children are objecting seriously over your desire to get married again. You are a grown man, so I repeat, follow your heart.

But before you do anything, discuss with your children and your lawyer about making a prenuptial agreement.

Pastor

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