Should I break up with my boyfriend?

July 12, 2018

Dear Pastor,

Keep up the good work that you are doing. I need your input on a situation. I am currently in a relationship but we are having issues.

I am 23 years old and my boyfriend is 22. He is a very thoughtful, generous, caring and kind person. The thing is, I don't think he is as fully committed to me as I want him to be.

Reason being, he told me that he has a close friend and that he has feelings for her, but she is in a relationship with another man.

I've seen her before when I'm around my boyfriend and I can tell that she is jealous. He also plays with her as if they are together.

When I confronted him about it, he told me that I have nothing to worry about. But, Pastor, I asked him some questions to see where his mind and heart is and we nearly broke up.

From that I don't know what to do or think, or whether this will ever work out. This girl even calls his mother Mommy.

He isn't employed but I don't let that bother me for you don't have to be with someone who is established. But both of you can help each other reach their goals.

Should I call the relationship off before jealousy gets the best of me or should I wish him best of luck with this girl?

I also have an ex. We broke up for a silly reason, but he is telling me that he wants us to get married, and what's the sense being with this guy if I don't trust his intentions?

Confused

 

Dear Confused,

When one thinks that one is in love, one can always find excuses to stay together. This guy has not proven that he is serious about you. He is still looking elsewhere.

You should not put your confidence in him. He is behaving as a player. You are complaining about his behaviour, but at the same time, you believe that he is a good man for you to have.

I say to you, I feel that you are wasting your time. This man is unemployed and is not serious about you. You should let him go his way.

Pastor

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