I feel like I am running out of time
I hope you are well. I have written to you before and you have helped me tremendously, and I thank you. I have been listening to you on the radio since I was a child. However, I moved to the UK at a young age, so I've not listened to you on the radio for a while, but I do read your articles online.
I have a problem and I would really like your help and advice, please. I am 25 years of age and soon I will be 26. At times I feel so depressed because I feel like I haven't achieved much, and I get that feeling that I am running out of time. I have attended university. However, I have not received a promotion apart from moving from an intern to an assistant.
There were always changes going on in the workplace that I felt got in the way of me not getting promoted. Then, after all the changes have been completed, I felt I would definitely get a promotion; my manager even used to say I was doing well and always commend me on my work, but when it was time for a promotion, she said I wasn't ready. She never gave me a reason. I didn't think she was very fair because I know I am very hard-working, although I might not be as outspoken and talkative like the others.
Anyway, as I was in the process of finding a new job, they changed her role and she now has a lower role than before. I felt like this was karma. We now have a new head and I have told him how much I want to progress. He advised that he can tell that like many others, I haven't been looked after well. I am currently working on some objectives and also to show him all the work I have done in the past. He will use these to back up my promotion
I have been with the company for almost three years. I would have left but because it has been so long, I don't want to leave without anything. I am a marketing assistant and I am working towards a marketing executive role. I feel like at my age I should have at least been a senior marketing executive.
I am also living at my mother's house. If I listen to my mom, I would never move out. She advises me to stay as long as I want so that I can save for a house. I pay her monthly, but she does not pressure me at all. I thought by now I should have had a house. I am in a long-distance relationship so I travel a lot but I do try and go when the tickets are cheap to Jamaica. Maybe I could have saved up all that money, but I have been with my boyfriend for almost three years and we love each other. He doesn't ask me for anything and he helps when he can. He also helps me when I am there, so it's not all on me. He is very ambitious and we are both working towards our future.
I FEEL LOST
I don't know if I should just rent somewhere else, and try and save, just so I can feel a bit more independent. I feel really lost. Is there a certain age I should move out from my mom's house? I feel like I should wait until I save up some more money; it might take me another two or three years before I can buy a house, and then I will be almost 30. It's really stressing me out.
I also want to start my own business, because from what I have experienced at my current job, I have come to realise that I don't want to work for someone for the rest of my life. I am in the process of working on that. It will be an e-commerce business. I believe that with my marketing experience I have the chance to do really well. However, it's hard to work on it constantly as I work full-time.
One thing I have always wanted to do is to start a charity for the children of Jamaica. I have started the foundational work, such as making the website and the overall mission as well as project plans. I had someone who was helping me with it in Jamaica, but she has her own problems, so I feel bad in pressuring her too much. I ended up offering help to her when I can. Then I started to realise that many probably won't like the idea of me starting a charity when I have family in Jamaica who could do with the help. but my initial plan is if the charity becomes successful then I would be able to help many children in need, including my family members. It's really hard trying to do all this on my own. I am currently trying to figure out a way to raise money. I really want to make a difference. I was ill-treated and abused as a child when I was living in Jamaica, I don't know if that is why I want to help others so much; but I do believe that aside from what I experienced, I have always been a good person.
I believe that you have done marvelously well. You need to give thanks to God. Stop complaining. Continue to rent from your mother. You will save a lot more by living at her house. You have goals, work towards these goals. You could achieve what you plan to do.
Concerning the promotions you would like to get at your workplace, they will come in time. God sees how hard you work and he will not let you down. Don't blame anyone because you feel that you are not moving up rapidly at your workplace.
Perhaps what you may consider doing is making an appointment to see a career counsellor who might be able to give you some tips on what to do to make you progress faster in life.