Still married, but I’m seeking a new wife

June 19, 2019

Dear Pastor,

I am very interested in getting a good Jamaican woman. I am 50 years old. I am still married, but I am planning on getting a divorce. I have four children. The last one is 10 years old. I have a good job. Supporting my children is not a problem. My wife says that she doesn't want me anymore. She is tired of me. I think she has found somebody else who can give her more money.

We have two houses. The one we are living in is paid for, but the other is rented out, and we have a mortgage for that one. My wife wants both houses, so I am going to fight it out in court. I can't wait to get a divorce. I am having one problem. I have not been well for few months now, but I am under doctors' care. I am not Jamaican, but I heard Jamaican women make good wives. I am looking forward to hearing from you.


Dear M.B.,

How can a sick man who is married and has four children, with the youngest being 10 years old, be interested in finding another woman? You and your wife are in court. You don't know what is going to happen. You say your wife wants both houses. It is likely that the fight you are having with your wife is going to take a long time.

It seems to me that you should keep yourself quiet. You are not in any position to seek another woman in your life. And I want you to know that Jamaican women are very smart. You heard that they make very good wives. That is true, but your life is a mess right now. So I suggest that after you get your divorce and the matter of division of property is settled and your health has improved, you can contact me again. At that time, you should state the type of work you do and your financial status, etc. You should mention what age group you are seeking. I will move on from there.

Again, remember that you are 50, and you can't fire 'bullets' as you used to do. And what a new woman in your life would be looking for is more than just sex. She would want security from you.

I repeat, right now, you should just cool yourself. Try and live in harmony with your wife. I don't believe you have told me the full truth about your wife. A woman doesn't just reject her husband without a cause. If you were treating this woman well, she wouldn't want you out of her life. You probably can't function anymore, and you refuse to deal with the matter by going to the doctor. Or you are accusing her of something that she is not guilty of.

Again I say, you are not ready for a new wife. And in your state right now, only a crazy Jamaican woman would take you on.


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