My woman didn’t tell me she had a child

June 20, 2019

Dear Pastor,

I am 40 years old, and my girlfriend is half my age. When I met her, she was working in a bar. I used to go there and drink, and I fell in love with her. She told me that she didn't have a proper place to live. She was living in a little room and cooking outside. The room was not suitable for any single girl to live in.

One night I took her home, and when I went around to her room, I couldn't bother to stay there. So, I promised that I would get her a place to live. But I was living with another woman. After a year, we started to live together, and it was at that time she told me that she has a child, and the child was living with her mother. I asked her why she didn't tell me when we met, and she said she was afraid. I forgave her, but I was not pleased with her.

When I asked her about the child's father, she said he doesn't have a father. She does not even know the name of the man. I met the child and I like him, but my mind has changed from this woman. Whenever her phone rings and she answers, she is always whispering, and I suspect that she is talking to other men.

I told her that I want her to leave because I am going to give up the room. The landlord told me that if I am giving up the room, she cannot stay at the house. Since I told her I want to give up the room, she doesn't even want to wash and cook for me again. Do you think I am too hard on this woman?


Dear P.K.,

Evidently, this young woman tricked you. You were attracted to her, and you believed that you could have assisted her. You knew that she had nothing, but what you did not take into consideration was that you were living with a woman and this woman with whom you lived did not do you any wrong and you should not have left her. It is said that "a new broom sweeps clean, but an old broom knows the corner."

Men often suffer after they ill-treat the women with whom they were living and become involved with new women. You thought you had found somebody fresh, nice and lovely. So, you left the woman with whom you were living and went with her, and she proved to be a liar. She is not an honest girl, and I really cannot encourage you to continue to stay with her. She is likely to wreck you.


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