I only want sex from older women

August 21, 2019

Dear Pastor,

I'm a big fan of your column and I always read it. I have a serious problem. I am 17 years old.

I have this strong love for old, mature women and I would love to perform oral sex for them. I have been like this for as long as I can remember.

When I was at primary school, I had a liking for almost every teacher and would imagine myself having sex with them.

I don't know why I'm like that. I just think older women are more beautiful, sexier, and I love being around them.

I want to be there for them as friend, son and lover. I want to make them feel happy, young and sexy.

I'm not really the outgoing type of person. I'm shy and don't really talk to people much. So I wouldn't know how to approach an older woman.

To soothe my urges, I watch pornography with old women. However, recently I have found myself in a relationship with a much older woman. She's 55 and lives very far from me.

We met on social media and the phone is the only means by which we communicate. It will soon be a year since we met.

We send each other nude pictures and sometimes have phone sex. I really love her and she feels the same way. We haven't met in person though, so we haven't had sex yet.

Do you think something is wrong with me for loving old women? Do you think the relationship will last? We need each other and I want to be with her, but other people might frown upon our love and think she's way too old for me.

But I can't love young girls. I'm not attracted to them. I only want old women. What should I do?


Dear Anonymous,

You love older women and you fantasise about them. You say you have an older woman as a lover, but you have not met in person. You are not even an adult.

Just about everyone is guilty of fantasising from time to time. But you are carrying a heavy load. This woman is exchanging nude pictures with you.

I am not going to condemn you for loving older women, but what you should rather do is to seek the help of God to overcome this habit of wanting to go to bed with these older women and performing oral sex with them.

I can promise you that I will remember you in my daily prayers.


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