My boyfriend is a ‘player’

September 06, 2019

Dear Pastor,

I have been with my boyfriend for little more than a year now. During this period, he has cheated twice, each time with an ex.

I forgave him, but I'm confused about whether I should continue being with him. He says that he loves me and that he is sorry and wants us to work things out.

As much as I love him, I feel as though he is not doing enough for me.

When it comes to money, he claims that he doesn't have it to give because he's attending school. He's on his own, but he does work. He gave me a little money once, but that's it.

He shows effort, and we get along just fine. He's a private person. Overall, we have good chemistry, and I'm very comfortable when I'm around him.

But I'm frustrated and find it hard to leave. I love him ,and I don't want to give up on our relationship.

Right now, he's willing to try again, but I'm very hesitant, even though we communicate and see each other. I constantly have doubts and keep pushing him away. I'm 20, and he is 25.


Dear Anonymous,

This guy is just having fun with you and the other girls. He is not ready to make you his special woman. He likes you and the other girls you consider his exes.

Don't fool yourself. He does not have ex-girlfriends; they are all in his life.

You consider him mean. Well, I doubt very much that he is mean. What might be happening is that the money he is earning is too little and cannot stretch far enough to make all of his girls happy.

He is a poor man who is trying to be of service to as many women as he can. But he cannot afford it. You would be wise to leave him alone. Consider this relationship a very bad experience.


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