Babyfather got my friend pregnant

November 11, 2019

Dear Pastor,

This is the second time I am writing to you. I hope that you are doing well. I have a daughter. She is 16-years-old. Her father and I broke up when she was three years old. We were living together, but he did not support the home very much. I had to leave our daughter with his mother during the week and I had to work long hours doing security work.

I found out that while I was out working long hours, he used to take women to the house and one of them was my personal friend. He got her pregnant. He said the child was not his, but one day I told him that I am going to leave him and if he wanted me to stay with him, he should come clean.

I was lying when I told him that I would stay with him. I just wanted to know the truth. He admitted that he had a child with this woman.

Pastor, I left him but I allowed my daughter and her sister to get together. Sometimes her mother sends her to us to spend weekend. I don't hold anything against the child's mother, but I don't want to have anything to do with her father.

The reason why I am writing to you is because this man is trying to get back with me and begging me pardon. I don't want him back in my life.

I have a man friend and he has asked me to marry him. Would you believe that my child's father is saying that if I am to be married, I have to marry him because he does not want his daughter to grow up with a stepfather?

My daughter is well protected by me. I bought a house with the help of NHT and sometimes it is hard to pay the mortgage and to send my daughter to school. This man shows up at my house and behaves as if we have something going on and my present boyfriend is questioning his behaviour.

I don't know how to handle this problem.


Dear K.F.,

I am sure you must have told this man to get lost. He has already made a fool of himself. You must stand your ground and don't allow him to believe that he can walk back into your life.

The relationship is dead. What you should insist is that he supports his child and nothing more.

If he keeps coming to your house uninvited, you should settle this matter in court. He has a right to see his child, but he should not try to come and go as he pleases. So, take this matter to court and let the court decides what day he may visit or at least take his daughter out, etc.

You know you can't trust him much, so, I repeat, settle this matter in court. He has no claim on you, my dear, none whatsoever.


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