Desperate to be a mother

January 15, 2020

Dear Pastor,

I'm so confused and unhappy. First, let me say I'm living overseas. I've tried everything in my power to be a mom.

I've done IUI and IVF. I've even tried adoption. The thing is that adoption in the United States is too expensive.

I've tried to do it in Jamaica, but I'm on a waiting list, and they say it's way too long, plus persons who live in Jamaica will get first choice.

I got in contact with a woman who has 20 children and she was pregnant again. We agreed for me to adopt her youngest baby who was seven months old, or her unborn baby.

But I soon realised that she was a liar. She wanted me to always send her money. Her eldest daughter told me she gave away the two youngest children to a woman already.

So what I'm trying to say is they are always trying to use me. I don't know what to do. I want to be a mother so bad and I can't.

What have I done that is so bad that God isn't helping me? I don't know what to say. I'm unhappy. I'm always crying. Please, pray for me.


Dear K.A.,

I have said on many occasions that people who want to adopt children should not make private arrangements with the mothers of children who would like to give them up for adoption.

I will repeat, anyone who would like to adopt a child should contact the Adoption Board. They would give you advice on how to go about it.

Take the advice they give, and if you do so, you will not go wrong.

Stop blaming God because you have not yet become a mother. Change your attitude towards God. God does everything in His own time.


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