Husband always prays before we have sex

May 19, 2020

Dear Pastor,

I am 27, and my husband is in his 40s. This is his second marriage. His first wife didn't treat him well although she says she is a Christian. My parents know his first wife.

I am quite comfortable. He owns his own house, and we have two cars. He supports me. I don't have any children for him. He says he wants me to get pregnant, and I would like to have a child for him, too.

I had a miscarriage when I was 21. The man who got me pregnant and I broke up because his people told him that I threw away the belly, and he believed them. So, we broke up.

It was after that relationship that I started to attend church and met this man. His big concern was whether I would be faithful to him because I am so much younger.

We got over that barrier, and we got married privately. The first day we were having sex, before we began, he prayed, but now it is a habit of his. Every time I want to have sex with him, he wants us to pray first.

I asked him why, and he said it is the right thing to do. I told him we are married, so why should we pray before we have sex? He keeps saying it is the right thing to do.

So I decided that I will ask you if there is anywhere in the Bible that says a married couple should pray before they have sex. He does not know that I am writing to you about it, but when you answer, whatever you say, I will show him.

Keep safe, pastor. I am looking out for your answer.


Dear J.T.,

I don't know of any particular verse or scripture to which I may refer you. I suppose your husband wants both of you to pray before you engage in intercourse because he wants to get you pregnant.

But to be very frank with you, he shouldn't wait to pray at the moment when you are ready to engage in love making. You should tell your husband that he is killing the vibes and he is turning you off.

Tell him that the Bible says in the Book of Ecclesiastes that there is a time for everything. I would suggest that you read to him Ecclesiastes 3:1-8. Let your husband know that both of you are not sinning so you don't have to pray before you have sexual intercourse.


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