My late husband had a second family

May 26, 2020

Dear Pastor,

I was married for 20 years, and I was never able to trust my husband. We have three daughters, and they love him more than they love me. Because of the type of job he did, he was not always at home. He became ill, and it was only while he was ill that we found out that he had another family. He had a woman who has three children for him.

One Sunday, the other set of children showed up. They came to see their father. We were all shocked because that man was so secretive, he never told us about them. My girls offered them drinks, and they said that they heard that their father had other children, but they were not even aware that he was married to me.

When I went into the room and saw my husband just staring at me, I walked out and went into the bathroom and cried.

My husband died, and at his funeral, the children were present, but in the eulogy, they were never mentioned. And those who gave tributes did not mention them either because nobody on our side knew about them.

I have spoken to the mother of the children since he died, and she said that she did not know that he was married and living with us because he was always at her house. How he was able to play this game, I will never be able to explain.

I knew something was wrong, but I could not put my finger on it. Every month, he gave me money for the children. They are grown up and are in good jobs. and the other children know that their father never left anything for them.


Dear G.H.,

You have stated the type of work your husband did, but I have deleted that. He married you, and then he pretended that he was single and had another family with another woman. One woman was not enough for him.

I am glad that you treated his children well and they were glad to meet their other siblings. I hope that he did not leave you in debt. I hope that his soul has found rest.


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