Boyfriend does not want me to leave Jamaica

July 28, 2020

Dear Pastor

I am 25 years old and have been an avid reader of your column. When I first contacted you, you invited me to church and I enjoyed it. I was attending The University of the West Indies at that time and I was struggling, and you assisted me. I want you to know that I will always be grateful to you for your help.

I have a good job. My father came into my life pretty late, but I am thankful for what he did to help me. My ultimate goal is to be an attorney. If I can't make it in Jamaica I must make it abroad. But to be an attorney is my dream, perhaps I can say passion. I want to break the 'baby cycle' in my family. All my sisters have babies. I have never gotten pregnant, and so some of my sisters and even my aunts call me a mule. You are the only one who has helped me to remain focused.

I am having a little problem with my boyfriend; he does not want me to leave Jamaica. He feels that I would leave him, but I do not have that in mind. He has been so good to me, but Jamaica is hard and I have relatives in the United States of America who have promised to help me. I would like to have your input in this matter.


Dear C.S.,

I remember you very well and I am glad that you have graduated from university. You have struggled along, but now your folks can be proud of you. You have always wanted to be an attorney, so don't give up. I tried to reach you on the phone but was unsuccessful. Perhaps you changed your number. It was so unfortunate that instead of encouraging you, your folks called you dispiriting names. Tell your boyfriend he does not need to worry if you guys have made a commitment to each other. I wish you well.


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