Husband’s weight messing up our sex life

August 10, 2020

Dear Pastor,

I am 38 years old and I am having a problem with my husband. I am finding it very difficult to get him to understand that our sex life is going down the hill.

Whenever I talk to him about his weight, he accuses me of having an affair. I am not having an affair; I can assure you that I am not.

My husband used to be very slim but now his weight is out of control. He is a chef. He eats and drinks and goes to bed. His size is affecting our marriage.

We cannot even do what we used to do a few years ago. How can I get my husband to change? Please give me your advice.


Dear T,

Some couples do not understand that obesity can take away sexual pleasure from either the man or woman, and it can be a real turn-off in a relationship.

Therefore, I suggest that you should encourage your husband for both of you to go and see a doctor for advice. The doctor will talk to him and encourage him to go on a reducing diet.

If he follows that diet, it will make a great difference in his relationship with you.


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