I think I like watching porn

November 30, 2020

Dear Pastor

I am 23 years old and I have a 25-year-old boyfriend. We have been going for two years but we do not live together. I am living with my mother because she is not very well. I don't intend to leave my mother until she has fully recovered.

I go to see my boyfriend at least thrice a week. He is very understanding and sometimes he comes to see my mother and stays over. One evening I went to his place. He knew I was coming but he had to go out. I have a key to his apartment. I went in and turned on the cable and I saw something that I did not know about him. He had on the pornographic channel. I was disgusted at first by the things I saw, but liked some of it.

When my boyfriend got home I asked him why he was watching porn and he began to apologise for leaving the television on that channel. I told him that he did not have to apologise because I learnt something new about him. Then he told me that watching porn sometimes turns him on. I must confess that while I was there alone looking at the cable, the content that was on turned me on too.

Do you think that if I continue to view porn, it will contaminate my mind?

R.M.

Dear R.M.

Let me begin by saying that I doubt very much that boyfriend was trying to trap you into looking at porn. Evidently, he was looking at them and he forgot to change the channel and turn off the television before he left the apartment. Evidently, he secretly looks at them from time to time. So I do not believe that you should condemn him because of what you saw.

Interestingly, when you saw the porn channel, you didn't turn it off immediately. So you were enjoying the pornographic imagery. So much so that you got turned on. I do not encourage anyone to look at porn because you can become so addicted to it and it might have a negative effect on you. But I am not here to condemn anybody who enjoys looking at these adult films. I do know that some of the 'blues' are so raw and ugly that it would be better for Christians to not even have a glance at them.

So I repeat, do not condemn your boyfriend for what you saw. Both of you may talk about these things. Don't get indulged in what you saw. It is not a good diet for the soul.

Pastor

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