Can’t get enough sex

December 28, 2020

Dear Pastor,

I am writing to you about a problem. I am a 23-year-old woman and I got married two years ago. I used to masturbate very hard and I was told that when I got married, I would masturbate less. But I can tell you that the habit has not changed. I masturbate as often as I used to, before I got married. My husband has not been able to sexually satisfy me. When we have sex, I feel satisfied but within a few hours, I feel for more sex.

I enjoy sex so much. This thing started when I was in high school. I would be doing my homework and masturbating at the same time and I would feel quite satisfied and no one would know. Sometimes my husband and I have sex two or three times in one evening and I feel for more. When I am at home on my day off, I would just call him and tell him to come and he knows what I am calling him about and he comes and he asks me why I can't behave myself and wait until he gets home. My mother asked me once if I liked plenty of sex and I told her 'yes, too much'. And she said I should not make that bother me and that it runs in the family because she likes plenty of it too. We left it there.

I have never thought about going with another man but even when my husband is fully satisfied, there are times when I can go longer. Do you think something is wrong with me? I have never thought about cheating. That is not the reason why I am writing to you. I just want to know if what I am experiencing is normal. I will be looking for your answer in the paper.


Dear Y.,

We all know that a woman who always wants to have sex is called a nymphomaniac but my understanding is that this type of woman wants to have sex with anybody that comes her way, so to speak. But that is not the same thing in your case. You are having that strong sexual desire to have sex with your husband. It is surely not the same thing.

Some sex therapists may say that you are suffering from some sort of disorder. I would not even want to go that far. What I do believe is that over time, this desire to have sex so many times per day or night or whenever, would dissipate. And perhaps that may surely happen whenever you become pregnant.

In the meantime, it might not be a bad idea to have a discussion with a sex therapist or for you to investigate this matter further. Try not to overdo a good thing.


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