Boyfriend harassing me for a threesome

Dear Pastor,

I am 26 years old and I have a boyfriend. I thought we had a good sex life, but recently I have come to realise that something must be missing, because he has been asking me for more.

I am not talking about the frequency of sex. He told me that he admires a couple of my girlfriends and he would like me to do him a favour by asking one of them to join us in bed. I told him that he was crazy and I could never do so.

Then my boyfriend told me that it was a fantasy he has always had. He said some of his friends have had that fantasy, too, and some of them have done it and it has not destroyed their relationships. He said he is sure that bringing one of my girlfriends to bed with us will not destroy ours. I was so angry that I cursed him, got up from the bed, and did not sleep with him that night. The following morning he tried to make up with me by telling me that if I didn't want us to have a threesome together, I should give him the permission to go with one of my girlfriends, who can get another girl in bed with her. I told him that if I became aware that any of my girlfriends has done so, I would have nothing to do with her, and I would break up our relationship. He said it was a fantasy, and nothing is wrong with a threesome.

I asked my friends if any of them would be so brave to have a threesome and they said no. One girl said she may do it for $1 million, and I told her that if she will do so for $1 million, I couldn't trust her. How would she know that the other person was not suffering from an STI? She said the $1 million would be more than enough to pay a doctor to clean her up. I know that if my boyfriend had $1 million, he would give it to this girl. She did not say that she would engage with him and another girl for the money, but she said she would consider it.

What do you think?

B.L.

Dear B.L.,

Your boyfriend has declared that he wants more sex. You thought that the both of you had a good relationship, but evidently you were wrong.

He has been listening to his friends who have engaged in threesomes, so he too would like to get the experience. I say that you should be glad that he has told you that that is his desire, so that you can be on your guard. I cannot encourage you to consent to this request. I hope that none of your girlfriends would subject themselves to that kind of behaviour from your boyfriend.

The girl who suggested that she may consider engaging in a threesome for $1 million should not be trusted, either. Keep a close eye on your man and on this girl.

Pastor