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New broom sweeps clean

DEAR PASTOR,

I am 29. My problem is that my babyfather and I have been living together for seven years and it has been problems ever since. We have a five-year-old son. If I do not cook one day he argues for the whole night. We are living in a studio apartment and it is not like I could go in another room. He fusses a lot. He doesn't go anywhere.

He does not take me anywhere. When he is at home all he does is watch television and eat. He always says he is going to take me out, but when the time comes, he always finds something to argue about and doesn't take me anywhere.

Out of love

I have fallen out of love with him for the past two years. If we have a problem the first thing he does is to call my relatives and I do not like that because if I have a problem I wouldn't pick up the phone and call his relatives. Whatever happens in the house should stay in the house. He is a very good father. He works seven days a week and he has no time for me. He is not ready for marriage.

Four years ago I went to my country and I met a guy. He is a friend of the family. We are talking for two years. He treats me very well and he takes me places. He doesn't call me names and he is a very nice man. Back in the days old folks would say old broom know how to sweep the corners better. I love the guy that I have been with for two years. I do not love him because he does nice things for me. I love him because of who he is and his personality and loving ways. I told him that I met someone and all of a sudden he wants to marry me. I told him no because I don't believe that he would have wanted to marry me if I didn't find someone else.

J.,

Dear J.,

I suggest that you leave the man with whom you are living. Do not stay in the same house with him. You are not in love with him anymore.

You have found another man and you have told him about the other guy. It would not be wise for you to marry your child's father because your heart is not with him. He has not handled the relationship very well. It is too late now for him to offering to marry you. However, do not remain in the house with him while you are seeing another man.

Pastor