Tell Me Pastor

Tied knots

DEAR PASTOR,

I am 20 years old and I am married to a good friend of mine. It was a business wedding. He told me that he was marrying me because when you are in the military and married, you get more money. So, as a good friend, I did it for him. The thing is, he likes me, but he has his girlfriend and I have my boyfriend. Whenever I mention my boyfriend's name to him, he gets upset. One day he came to me and told me he needs a divorce. I said okay. Now he is not with his girlfriend anymore he me wants to be with him, but I told him no, that cannot work because I love my boyfriend.

If I ask him for anything he always says that he doesn't have any money. The point is, he is married to me. I shouldn't have to be asking him for anything even though I have a man?

L.M.,

Fort Lauderdale, Florida

Dear L.M.,

You have tied up yourself unnecessarily. Does your boyfriend, who is really your man, know that you did a business wedding? People who are not honest will always get themselves into trouble. This man feels that he has the right to go to bed with you because both of you got married. You feel that he should give you money because you are his legal wife. Both of you are tricksters and playing games with each other. You never loved each other. Both of you took marriage as a joke. This man got more out of this silly union than you. In plain words, he is a ginnal and you are naive. I suggest that you see a lawyer and have him or her deal with the matter of divorce. You should also let your present boyfriend know of the foolishness you did. Do not allow this man to use you now that his girlfriend has left him.

Pastor