Dear Pastor,
You are doing a wonderful work and I hope you will keep it up as long as you have life. I am a regular reader of THE STAR. I am 18-years-old and I live in the United Kingdom.
I have a boyfriend. I found out that he likes my sister and that my sister likes him. My sister told me about it first then he told me. He told me that he does not want to leave me and my sister likes him, but he only has feelings for her. He begged me not to leave him and I gave him a second chance.
I read my sister's telephone book and I found out that she visited him and had sex with him. Whenever I ask my sister she would argue with me. I asked my boyfriend about it, and he told me that she came to his house and she wanted to have sex, but he did not.
We planned to spend Valentine's Day together but at 2 a.m. he sent me a text message that he has to work with someone. So I went to his house to drop off his present the Monday. He was there but not answering the doorbell or his mobile phone. I returned to his house and rang the doorbell. He answered, but refused to let me in because I left a swearing message on his phone. A relative let some people in, but not me.
I am confused. I have though of suicide sometimes, but I have overcome it by praying and reading my Bible. Does this guy loves me? What should I think about my sister?
L.M., United Kingdom
Dear L.M.,
You should not continue with this man. You should consider him dead. He should not be having an intimate relationship with you and your sister. He has no shame and your sister is just as bad. You are greatly hurt. Do not go back to his house. Do not allow him to use you. His behaviour is rotten. You will get over him.
Pastor
