DEAR PASTOR,
I am confused about my relationship with my boyfriend. We have been in this relationship for the past seven years, and it is a living hell. I can't take it anymore. It is not good. It is pure stress. I don't know what I got myself into. I couldn't back out. He does oral sex, anal sex and threesomes. He has turned me into a freak.
He loves to watch other women and I make love. The problem is that he cannot be satisfied. He is a sex maniac and a freak.
The way he loves to have oral sex is that if you put a dress on a dog he would do it. Everyone in his community knows about his freakiness. He doesn't hide it. He does it to every single woman he goes to bed with. He does a lot of crazy things. Sometimes I think he is mad.
X-rated movie
This guy turned me into a bisexual. I am ashamed. I was glad when he got a job to work in one of the islands. He left me at his house to take care of his things. His landlord treated me like a dog. I have to pay the rent and all bills. I wrote to him last year telling him that we should end the relationship because I couldn't take it anymore.
I just want to go back to my mother's house. He was pressuring me. He loves women to support him because he is handsome. It is all about his daughter and himself. I have a daughter. I would like to be a mother, not a freak.
Bisexual
His landlord told me last year not to become pregnant for him because of the number of women that came there to him. She said I would believe he is starring in an X-rated movie. I am seeing someone else. I want to get rid of him. He believes he is the best, but I can't take it anymore. I feel like killing myself because of the pictures he made me take. I was so stupid. I hate him for ruining my life. I am 32 and he is 37.
M.P., St. Thomas
Dear M.P.,
I regret hearing that you got involved with this grossly immoral man. He has encouraged you to engage in things that you now regret doing. You should end the relationship with this man and you should make an appointment to see a psychologist. What you have done will linger on your mind. Therefore, it is prudent that you see a professional who will enable you to deal with your past and to face a brighter tomorrow.
You should also leave where you are living. He left you there but if you are going to cut this man out of your life, you must find another place to live. I don't know what he may do with the pictures. You should consider talking that over with a lawyer. It is unfortunate that you got involved with another man so soon.
Perhaps you felt you needed someone to 'lean on', so to speak. Please try and get yourself a job and please go to church. Write or call this man immediately and inform him that the relationship between the both of you is over.
Pastor
